Looking after someone may be a large part of your life, but it is inevitable that your caring role will change over time.

This may be because the person you cared for has recovered and no longer needs care, they can no longer be cared for at home, or because they have died. Whatever your situation it is important to realise that you are not alone. It will be difficult, but you can find help and support.

For many carers, the time when your caring role ends can be very difficult and many people experience a range of emotions from sadness and loss to guilt and loneliness.

If the person you are caring for has recovered form illness

If you are caring for someone who has now recovered from illness it’s important to take time for yourself, build up new social networks & skills and maybe even think about returning to work or embarking on a new course.

If the person you are caring for has moved

If the person you are looking after has moved, into residential or nursing care, you may feel that you are no longer a Carer. However, many people still are involved in the care of their loved one, although their caring role does change.

You may be struggling with being alone; you may feel guilty and have a feeling of sadness and loss. You are not alone in these feelings, all of these feeling are normal.

If the person you are caring for has died

If the person you are looking after has died you will be feeling great sadness and loss. You may feel alone and isolated, as you may have lost contact with friends or ended social activities because of your caring role, or you may have done a lot of things with the person you looked after. You may be experiencing financial difficulties by factors such as funeral costs and having to deal with benefits.

Sometimes sharing your sorrow with others who have experienced similar losses can help. Our Past Carers Group (pdf) offers companionship and friendship and there will always be someone at the end of a telephone if needed 

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Contact your local Carers Project who will be able to sign post you to services where you can received the correct advice and support.

Carers Support Project
Tel: 0808 100 1801

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